even good things inch towards the end

or the beginning.

just heard devastating news. good ol' gma has cancer. w/ her history of 2 brain surgery and her "work her bones into the ground" ethic...this is particularly hard to bear. the doctor said she has a tumor the size of an egg in her stomach, and it looks to have grown for at least 3 years.

my grandma never complains about anything. today, for the first time in her life, she stated something we all knew was true: that my cousin chides her and scolds her. we all did it to her at some point, usually out of frustration, b/c she tries to help out w/ her frail body and we get mad that she continues to want to work for us. and that cousin chides everyone, and they've had a bit of a strained relationship...as strained as relationships can go with my saintly grandma.

she always says things are okay even when there's evidence of pain and even when there's blood, and obvious dizzy spells and bruises from a fall or a gash. she says it's nothing. we know it's not nothing, she just doesn't want the attention and further hates worrying us.

she never complained, she grit her teeth and told no one of the discomforts that the growing tumor caused her over the years. she just drank soda to help settle her stomach, and we would scold her not to. she wouldn't eat brown rice and attracted even more reprimands. we would never have known of her cancer had she not fallen sick a couple weeks ago. had it not been for her vomiting or her inability to get out of bed. had it not been for the diarrhea or the visibly ailing old lady, shrinking annual from her already-diminutive stature, we wouldn't have known.

i want to sit here and blame the doctors who performed her 2nd brain surgery 3 or 4 years ago. but that's not the only thing. she had her first brain surgery to install a tube to drain fluids building up in her head, 13 years ago, the summer i turned 15 and she decided that it was her time. then 3 years ago, she took a fall on a very windy day and once again told no one. instead she threw up and couldn't stand up, notifying my uncle that something was not right. he forced her to go to the doctor with him and my mother and her sister flew to korea to be with their mother for what we all thought would be the end, again. the doctors performed the 2nd brain surgery and she seemed fine. but why didn't they check everything? why didn't they do a gastro endoscopy? test her blood for any abnormal cells? anything? couldn't they have done something to put us on notice?

but blaming them won't solve anything, and i know my grandmother's silent suffering has much to do with the development of the cancer. and we're all to blame for our oversight, our blindside focus on her brain surgery and the shaking of her hands the wobbling of her stride. we were too concerned about her gaining weight of her developing diabetes or her blood pressure rising and mostly the tale-tell signs of the 2 brain surgeries. we should have insisted on more check ups despite the difficulty of getting her to agree.

at the very least, we should have let her do what she wanted, ruin as many new-fangled, modern gadgets and never said a word about it. we should have treated her with the respect she surely deserves, never should have hinted at how upset we got when she broke or misused yet another kitchen gadget, yet another beauty product, yet another article of clothing. b/c she's worth more than all those things to us.

she doesn't want us to spend money or our concerns on her. she doesn't want to be trouble. but she doesn't know that she's no trouble at all. i want nothing more than to lay next to her, share my bed with her, hold her hand while she sleeps next to me. i want nothing more than to remind her of her goodness, thank her for her love and her sacrificial kindness. i don't want the last time i saw her to be the last time i see her. i don't want the last time i talked to her to be the last time i talk to her. i want to hug her forever, to tell her i love her and i want to do so much for her, even if she won't let me.

i wish i had the means to make her happier, more comfortable and feel more loved. i want to brush away the innumerable pains and heartache she has suffered, to erase the hardships of war and widowhood and raising a handicapped child. i want her help her forget the mean things that her grandchildren, her daughters-in-law and her own children have said to her in return for her quiet sacrifice. but most of all i want her to know that i want nothing more than to care for her, and that caring for her, expending my energy and my currently non-existent means, is the thing i want to do most right now. i don't want to go live my life, seek my own pleasures and desires. i want to serve her and comfort her while i have a chance.

the last i heard her voice on the other end of the line was the week after i graduated from law school and moved back to Chicago, i called to let her know. i wanted her to be proud of me, even when i was ashamed of my law school career. i don't think she noted the difference between college and law school, but she promised to make me marinated raw crabs. a korean dish that i don't like unless she makes it. she is the best cook i have ever met in my life.

when i visited her in Yeosu, she used to get up at 4 am to go to the dawn fish markets, to greet the boats that have been out catching seafood by moonlight just so she could get the best, freshest crabs. she'd made it especially for me. she would set the breakfast table for everyone in my uncle's household, but through the haze of my sleep, i would hear her telling my uncle to let me sleep. then, when everyone else went off to work and school, and i groggily walked out of the bedroom, she'd say, "my sweet grace is up! i made your favorite marinated raw crabs, and made sure to knock off all the spines on the claws so you don't hurt your mouth." then she'd pull out, from the back of the fridge, the prized dish that she hid from everyone else so i could be the first to enjoy it. she was so thoughtful and full of love. she wanted me to have that extra hour of sleep. she didn't care if she had to set the table again after she finished the dishes. she loved me and the love was palpable.

i might have had a special connection with her...or so i once thought. but i think it's just her nature to be so giving. i often wonder who i love more, my mother or my grandma. i'm sure i love my mom "more" and logically so. but i think i love them differently. i think there are some things i'd do for my grandma more readily than i'd do for my own mom. and i'm incredibly close to my mom and love her dearly (she could probably dictate my life, and even through my grumbles and resistance, i'd probably do her bidding). but with my grandma, i want to offer her things i don't even have, love i can't even show in any adequate way.

the last time i saw her in person was almost exactly 2 years ago. i promised to visit her in California. and i haven't visited her yet.

i hoped that she'd come spend her summers in Chicago once i returned. we joked that she has an especially strong life line that just won't break, having gone through 2 open-skull operations after the age of 70, and another uterous-securing operation in between. no matter how much weaker she got, she seemed to be one of those who just might live forever, like her older sister who is in her 90's and probably bedridden with arthritis. but she's gotten so frail in the past few months, her heart has been further burdened with complaints she would not utter and with discomforts she won't voice. i don't think spending summers in Chicago is a possibility anymore.

(waiting for the airline employee to bring her a wheelchair, at O'hare on June 13, 2009)

i wish i didn't have to bar to worry about...or had the guts to say, "to hell with it, i can take it in february, i need to be with my grandmother." but i don't know if that would trouble her or make her happy or both or maybe she won't know the difference...maybe she won't care. but i have a feeling if she knew then she'd want me to achieve and pay her no mind.

she could have flaunted her beauty and her brains as a young woman. she chose humility and sacrifice instead. she chose to understand circumstances and forgive instead of show anger or disappointment at her at times dismal surroundings. she never batted an eye about her lot of having to take care of her polio-survivor daughter (my aunt), carrying her to school both ways and visiting her school in the middle of the day to take her to the bathroom. she worked tirelessly to put her handicapped daughter through college, after her husband died young.

she is as close to a saint as i'm ever going to get. she is my mother theresa. she is the silent sufferer and the one who would give her life to make mine just a little bit more comfortable. and if she had her choice she would do it all without me ever knowing it was her. she would do it for me, and i know she would do ten times more for my mother, who my grandma says was the child who never gave her trouble the one she never had to discipline.

i love her.

Heart aches daily, my mind comfluxed.

I should start a blog called "Defective Goods" (...for Free, Pick up only).

So often I feel like a defective good. Probably born perfect, as all babies are, but somehow was damaged in the process, irreversibly damaged.
No one would buy a product like me, even if parts of me are refurbished by expensive surgeries and improvements (or more dings?) were made with education and "refinement." So, my going price would be Free. But no deliveries made, must come and pick me up.
Would anyone find me useful enough to come all the way over to where I am to pick me up? Or would that be too much trouble, even if I were free?
While I desire to share blame, today, I will own up to the fact that I've taken what was given to me and wasted it. I've ruined and squandered it.

Defective Goods, for Free, Pick up only.

it's been months, yes, so shoot me.

that's how i feel today.

it's not like anyone actually follows this, it's like my way of standing on the street corner and talking aloud to myself or to a friend that i imagine that i have sometimes...i just do it here, b/c that way i don't look as crazy as the people who do it in public. I suspect they feel better about themselves for doing it out there and not cowering in a private room like i do now.

LET'S START THIS (CRAP) SHOW.

Apple makes me miserable, as does the

Bar and sometimes

Cats/Computers and while i'm at at it even some

Dogs and definitely most public Doors

...there, that's ABC and D's that make my life miserable

in the long run (and by long run I mean about 3 months) the BAR is probably going to be the worst misery, esp. b/c according to Barbri (oh! another "B" that makes my life miserable), i'm about 8% done w/ my bar preparation and I should be about 30% done w/ my preparation...that's just a rough estimate based on my expert eyeballing of that stupid green triangle along the "interactive paced program" bar. barbarbarbarbarbarbarbarbar! ugh, so hate that word right now.

but, to get to the point of me getting on this to spew some more of my garbled gomps, this time not b/c i can't open my mouth or b/c my stitches are bleeding, but b/c i'm inchoherent and in stagnation. YES. I said stagnation. that term is not solely used to describe the thing that's happening that i blame my current unemployed status on. And when i blame other things, i'm just deflecting from myself, which i was taught to do at this time-money-youth-devouring thing most commonly called "law school." the law is about assigning blame.

And, while it'll be noble of me to assign blame to myself, I refuse to today and most days since I stepped foot into that ugly concrete building that's like 60 years old and they stopped doing maintenance work on about 40 yrs ago.

I walked in looking like a happy, hopeful and potential-filled child of the just-passing-through-the-last-of-my-fairy-dusted-teenaged-years:

and I walked out looking like I do now:

(actual photo taken at the time of writing this blop...it doesn't even deserve a "g" today)

So, while you stare at the abhorrent image of myself, in which I could be mistaken for a crack whore...that I've so shamelessly posted, untouched and unglamorized...

...let me continue on to what drives me to post such an awful image and rant about the displeasures of my current state.

APPLE.

Mm-hmm, that company that manufactured this very machine i am pretending is my confidant(e), the one that makes so many techie toys that boys (and girls) all throw hard-earned money at, and possible even makes them weewee themselves.

While I would normally be praising these advancements in technology, I am hating them today, b/c they make my today kinda on the miserable side. I need an ipad/ipod touch/iphone to study for this ridiculous thing call the BAR that is the start of my troubles (see supra). I have a long commute to and from my barbri classes which are held only in one specific law school building, probably similarly miserable as the one I frequented w/ some regularity for the past 3 years. And because of this time spent commuting and waiting for trains and such, the staff at barbri allowed me an 'upgrade' to their new, shiny, fancy "mobile," even while attending the classes in person. Which was very generous and accommodating of them, I must add.

However, in order to access their "mobile" lectures, I need an iphone/ipad/ipod touch. I have an android phone that I am happy with, but of course, they haven't developed an app that is compatible with it. so, I think positively, and say to myself, 'I have such a device, the ipod touch.' But mine is 3 years old and does not have the capacity to use their app. I spent about 3 hours trying to upgrade the piece of shizz that I have to no avail.

And yesterday, I have spent a reasonable amount of time scoping the ipad out at the pretty Apple store (which, at Old Orchard Mall, is right next to Victoria's Secret which keeps such great secrets about sizing boobs and bras...but that's a different story for a different day for a new round of shocking news). And, I go on line to ebay, at the suggestion of one Will Romine that will remain nameless.

....ooops.

EBAY.

On it are all these ppl selling such items, and most of them have these EXCELLENT ratings and credit on line. So I bid on one, finally this morning. Then FREAK OUT. B/c I realized what happened...ebay has done it again. It's goaded me w/ "bid higher" and "you're currently the highest bidder but you WILL be out bidded, so bid a little more" and "you sure? that's it? c'mon, you need to add at least $50 to that bid" until I realized that I had put down waaay more than I had intended for the item of that condition.

So I spent a good 30 minutes freaking out, constantly refreshing my screen PRAYING for someone, ANYONE to OUTBID ME! I added splashes of coffee to my generic cinnamon toast crunch and gobbled 2 bowls of this crazy and yummy concoction. Then the prayer was answered, the miraculous happened. Some putz outbid me...

WHEW! I know, right?

but no...

I got suspicious, I got jealous.

I spent all that time reading reviews and considering how much things were worth, and bidding, putting $$$ that I DON'T HAVE and I LOST! I LOST!

I got angry.

So, I found a new, similarly alluring item of similar condition to bid on. And on goes the story, times like 4. And now I'm waiting on this one 1st generation ipad wifi only, with 32 gb of memory, "opened and return." It's currently $355...but my max bid is $403.37...and there's just over 2 hours left on this. OMG. I did it again. I meant to put $385 as my max bid, but then they led me to think that wasn't enough. Don't ask me how ebay gets me so easily. I must be illiterate when I see their pop-up boxes goading me to raise my bid.

And in the mean time, my dad gchats me that he could probably get an ipad tax-free or something thru someone he knows. So I had no choice but to tell him that I'll let him know if my bids win....dammit.

~~~AND, to make things worse, my brother, who has a paid internship at an investment bank in NYC, tells me he has an ipad. that he won't lend me. b/c he reads his newspapers on it on his commute in the am. then, when i complain to him that life is hard, i have no job and i can't even secure an ipad and my savings are gone and GA employers won't even interview me b/c I'm in IL even for volunteer positions...he tells me to just power thru it. I don't remember telling him to stop complaining when he called me to discuss how bad his condition is. He instead told me to just get shit done, power thru the studying and hit the pavement.

Listen up, news flash:

I DID "hit the pavement." and flew to every city I could get an interview in. It didn't land me a job, and so I took a break the past year.

I WISH I could just go out and purchase the most expensive IPAD and a brand new computer to take my bar exam on.

But GUESS WHAT? I am the equivalent of a beggar in wealth right now. Actually, I might be worse off, from a pure financial stand point b/c I have these things called education loans that are coming due in November. So i'm at the mercy of my parents, who are kind enough to feed me and house me in their house.

But I'm in my late 20's...I have a bit of pride/shame/sense of propriety (unlike my brother, who feels justified in mis-investing [yes, that is a word] large portions of funds that my mother once held in her bank account). I feel bad asking my mom for even more money, esp. when her sister called last night to report that my grandmother is ill and there will have to be more tests done on her to see what is the problem.

My poor grandmother brings tears to my eyes. I wish I could fly over to CA and stay by her bedside, but this stupid bar study is really getting in the way.

I called my grandmother to tell her that I graduated, but I don't think she understands that her granddaughter is now a JD, or that it's not the same as that other time I sent her graduation photos to Korea. It made me cry when I realized how old she's gotten since the last time I saw her--2 years ago, almost to the day.~~~

So i'm conflicted.

These things are making my life miserable today:

Apple (and apple-specific Apps)

Bar (and barbri, which creates apps only compatible w/ apple; Bidding on ebay)

Computers/Cats/Coffee shops that close too early and not have wifi

Doors in public places (some Dogs, but mostly not dogs)

EBAY (new addition, they are masterminds and so highly addictive that I have to constantly remind myself why I cut myself off from ebay, and can't let my guard down)

Furniture that doesn't...

...whatevs. i give up. i just hope i don't win that bid and instead, win a paying job offer and a free ipad that goes w/ the job. Oh, and can't forget happily ever after. I hope that happens too.

Here's to many miracles and happy endings.

teeth sensitivities...related to jaw surgery?

Okay, so today is December 12, 2010 (Happy Independence Day, KENYA!!!) Which is 2 yrs and 8 months since my jaw surgery. A few weeks ago, I started developing teeth sensitivity. This is a NEW problem for me. Never before has my teeth been sensitive...okay, my front bottom teeth never liked touching ice cream, but other than that, never. But it's not even my front little teeth. It's further along the sides/back. Like where my canines are. Particularly where my canines are. I am wondering if my roots are being exposed or something. I need to find a dentist quick. But I have no dental insurance under my student insurance...arg.

The other day, I was feeling really crappy, like getting sick or something, and I could literally feel the metal bits and screws around my nose. Not Kidding. I felt weirdly swollen/wonky/pain and so I touched the area that felt weird/slightly painful, and it was where the metal pieces were. They felt like they were lifting off my skull. NOT a pretty image in my over-active brain. But they're better now.

I got the metal plate and screws in my lower left jaw removed in late June 2009, but I still notice uneven swelling in that area. Esp. if the weather is bad or if I've been working too much and not sleeping enough or have lots to stress about (which law school ISN'T helping with).

But I really wanted to post a new blog (I know, it's been a year, or over a year) is b/c I wanted to start a list of things I want:

-Chemex (8-cup, which is about 40 oz, capacity, w/ the classic wooden collar)

& a box of unbleached Chemex filters (square or round, doesn't matter)

-E-Reader...I sorta want a Kindle, but the Nook also looks okay, and Sony or any other well-known brand would do as well. I haven't really read too many reviews, but I really liked the Kindle I read from, which a friend's dad left for her when he visited a few months ago. I don't know if she has to give it back during Christmas break.

-maybe a new pair of tall black boots. I have the old ones I've had for years, and they're still nice and sufficient, so I don't technically need new boots. It would be nice, is all.

-and maybe a new cashmere cardigan in a fun color. (I have a grey turtle neck, orange turtle neck--which might be a bit too loose on me now, and a fun claret-red cowl neck--which I LOVE). No need for new coats, but a pair of jeans, and maybe a pair of corduroys are needed. My clothes are growing or I'm shrinking. It's annoying but I need new pants that fit better. The clothes-makers are doing something funky w/ their sizes, I know it. I used to be a 4, or 4p. Now 2's are too loose on me, and some 0's have waists that are too big on me. This is ridiculous. I am not that tiny! I weigh more than my lowest weight after surgery, tho I've lost a bit of weight in the past few months. It's not an unhealthy weight for my height and frame. My teeny tiny friends have to resort to 0p's and -0's and 00's.

-most definitely a sweater dress appropriate for work, maybe something that's not grey or black...any other subdued and elegant color will do, about knee-length.

-possibly, a new computer in like 3-5 months. I think I want to take the bar on a new computer, if IL (or whichever state I get a job in, fingers crossed!!!!) switches to typed exams. Or, I can just get used to hand-writing lots of things, or go back to hand-writing essays exams.

-A JOB would be nice too. I mean, I should apply to jobs, but I don't know...I don't know...the economy is sooooo discouraging and my grades are just so horrid.

I might want to go back to grad school to see if I can regain confidence in my mental capacities and academic prowess. I never thought I was intellectually deficient or was a bad writer until I came to law school. I do fairly well at internships when I submit written work, but ugh...this antiquated school/teaching model has got to go. I hate the socratic method, never got used to it, and I just shy away from classes and situations where I'll be forced to speak. I think law schools should be taught on a tutelage system. It would foster better relations with professors and students that click and allow for independent learning styles and encourage students to take more responsibility/control over their legal education. So that they can focus on things they really want to, and know that the knowledge is theirs by choice, not b/c they were scared of being called on...esp. b/c the fear actually prevents ppl from learning. TRUTH. Told to me by many a fellow law student.

Okay, that's it. I need to write a 15-pg paper, due tomorrow. YIKES! And deal w/ my tummy troubles and the moon cycle and my reverse-cycling problem (sleeping btwn 5 am and 3 pm, and staying awake when it's dark out). And have 2 more papers due w/in 4 days after this one is turned in....help!

I hope to go for a check-up w/ my surgeon when I'm back in Chicago for Christmas break...and I'm coming back to the Atl the 2nd day of classes b/c dagnabbit, it's my last semester and I get to miss a couple days in the beginning of the semester!!! I never really settle down or learn anything in those first few days anyways.

btw

It's been way too long since I said something.

On June 20th, I had hardware removed from my lower jaw, left side. B/c it was hurting me and my doctor determined that it was too close to the surface and would be bothersome. I was swollen noticeably for a little over a week. But when I went in for my check-up a week after the operation, I was already almost healed! The nurse said I healed so quickly b/c I was young...little did she know, I turned the corner that same week from 1/4 century into the 2nd 1/4 century...

Needless to say, I wasn't really chewing on my b-day, so I didn't really do much for my 26th b-day. I'm getting too old for it anyways.

Cute/odd story about my hardware removal:

When I had just opened my eyes, and was still groggy from the anesthesia, the nurse put something in my hand and said, "Look what we took out of your mouth!"

I couldn't see anything clearly yet, and in my half-sleep state I asked, "Can I keep it?"

The nurse looked at me funnily for a second, hesitated, then said, "Sure. I'll have it sterilized for you, so you can pick it up when you come for a follow-up next weekend."

And sure enough, when I returned the following Saturday morning, she had it in the sanitization bag, wrapped up and sterilized for me. Unfortunately, I left it at home so I'll have to take pictures to post when I go home for Christmas.

I don't have x-rays of my newly altered jaw b/c I was running late for my return flight to Atl, and the doctor told me over the phone that if I have a flight to catch and nothing is bothering me, I can come in for the follow-up the next time I'm in town. I hope to get a print-out of the x-ray/scan so I can post my jaw scans w/ the newly-removed hardware!!

But that is all. Pls pray that I don't fail out of law school. Thanks.

short update (10+ mo.)

It's been 4 months since my last post...
...and I've become an unhappy individual. Maybe the braces were keeping my life in perspective for me. Law school sucks butt right now. It's more like law school sucks the life out of my soul. But anyways, March is fastly approaching and surprise, surprise, we get a spring break!!!! Who would've guessed? So I'll be going home to wish my mommy a happy 53rd birthday and see my OS for a 6-month follow up.
I think I'm going to ask to get at least some of my hardware taken out. My lower left jaw has very sharp, hard bumps on the surgery site and the doc said it's bone growth and would smooth out eventually but I have a feeling it might be a screw working its way out. Besides, the skin on that area is almost always slightly irritated. I might be developing adult acne, but then it's strange that it's mostly just in that area. And that side/part always hurts most when I try to bite...which reminds me, I can eat slivered and blanched almonds!!!! That's huge progress...I started w/ single pieces over Christmas. I even try sandwiches and I'm not too shabby w/ them, but sometimes when the bread is crusty, I still have major issues. I'm happy about the progress. It's been just over 10 months now.













<-This is me about 10 months ago...













This is me like 9 months ago...-->









And this is me today. As you can see, both me and my siamese twin aren't happy about law school...and the hopelessness that studying brings to my life.












BUT...I have an interview w/ CVLS in March! Yay! An interview for an unpaid legal job!!! woohoo!!! I already asked my parents and I'll be allowed to live at home if I get that job so I just have to pay for commuting and maybe for some minimal spending money. I really, really, really don't want to take out any loans at all for the summer. I might also be applying for funding from public interest funds/support organizations...but that means more work.
I just submitted a proposal for a summer internship with the World Health Organization in Geneva, Switzerland! I really hope I get it. The funding that's available thru the Global Health Initiative here is a maximum of $5000 and it won't cover even half of my 10-week minimum stay in Geneva (only one of the top 5 most expensive European cities to live in!). But I guess it's interesting opportunities to work w/ some international organizations on international law and human rights issues. I really hope I get it.
I also have 4 scheduled interviews w/ some public interest internship positions here in GA on Friday...and a couple stand-by interviews too. Kinda hoping for an offer from a paying position, even if it's minimal, it would help out my impoverished status.


well...back to studying Property....practice exam tomorrow. phooey.

nekked teef

yes, I've got them, as of Saturday, October 18, 2008.  That day will forever be branded in my brain...along w/ April 3, 2008, they day of my orthognatic surgery, and April 10, 2006, my first day at my first real job, and May 15, 2005, my graduation from Duke, ...August 25, 2008? my first day of law school?  maybe not.  I did want to quit everything and curl up into a fetal position and ask to be admitted to a hospital or a group home.But, as per usual, I digress...I should post the pictures of my buttery sheens right now.

The Close-up:

        And another w/ the essix retainers...

The debracification wasn't so bad.  The brackets popped off fairly easily and I didn't notice the first half of the lower coming off b/c I anticipated more pain.  But when the rings around the back molars came off, there was a slight stench...it's been 2 and a half years, my friends!!!

The part that was painful was the grinding away of the glue...my front teeth are sensitive and

 the assistant had to hold my tongue back b/c apparently it was getting in the way and my dentist was afraid of cutting it.  I still spat out blood and grit when they told me to brush....it was scary brushing w/out braces for the first time in over 2.5 yrs.

My teeth and gums hurt still when I brush them...it's been 3 days now.  Oh well...I'll learn, right?

I want to use some whitening strips, but my fr

ont teeth, especially the lower ones, are very sensitive right now.  Will it be bad?

Oh, and my panoramic and profile x-rays looked really good on the screen.  My chin's gotten longer, even w/out the genio.  They didn't print anything for me this time.  I wanna get a hold of my chart from my OS or my OD...I think they share the electronic records.

W/out my braces, my teeth look longer and the overall effect is an elongated lower face.  The surgery did a good bit, but w/ the braces, my lower face still looked a little on the small side (no complaints b/c it's 200% better than before!) but I was wondering if I should've had the genio.  In April was glad they didn't go for the genio b/c it would've been more bruises, more pain and more swelling.  But until this weekend, I started wondering if it would've been better.  Now, I'm 100% sure a genio would have bordered on over-kill.  My naked teeth makes my smile/mouth look longer, and adds to 

the longer jaw to make my face look kinda longish.  I have a very round face, or did, but it's now more oval, I think.  

...to be honest, I actually was motivated to post b/c I just had oatmeal, w/ gooey, melted cottage cheese and a small dash of blueberry kefir.  Soooo delicious!!!

So it was 1 packet of organic mixed berry oatmeal (from Costco) moistened w/ just enough milk to 

moisten all the oats, microwaved for 1 minute.  Then boiling water is added until it's softer, stirred and nuked for another minute.  Then a little more boiling water is added to a soft consistency and nuked again for a minute, in 20 second spurts...the top will be a little glossy-looking.  Then, about 3 Tbs of cottage cheese is thrown on top and stirred in...it gets all gooey like melted cheese!!!

I topped it w/ maybe a couple tablespoons of low fat blueberry kefir, and it was extra good, and cooled the mix down a bit for me to devour.  Yum!

What am I doing making oatmeal at 10:30 pm?  I'm on antibiotics again...I peed blood on Sunday night like the hour I got to my apt from the airport...and called student health.  The on-call doctor told me I needed to have my urine tested, either at the emergency room b/c it was like 9 pm or 1st thing in the morning at 8 am...I had an 8:30 am class and didn't feel like missing it (again, tho I had a legit reason this time).  So I went to the emergency room on Sunday night...the on-call doctor had to give me directions to it.  And was there pretty much all night...got home past 1 am.  I have a bladder infection...I've never had a  UTI before.  I'm on drugs that make me pee orange now, and the ER doctor prescribed some antibiotics called Nitrofurantoin-Macro.

But them bad boys didn't work so I had to go to student health again this afternoon.

Fortuitously, there were some med students who came to study in our library and one of them was in scrubs.  I had just gone to the bathroom and my lower back was killing me...so bad it took me a minute to stand up straight and walk out of the stall.  My back hurt last night as I was trying to sleep/read contracts, but I thought it was b/c I was carrying heavy things around.  The med students said that if I've developed kidney pain and a day and a half of antibiotics didn't make me feel better, then I need to go see a doctor again, soon.  They convinced me that I don't want to go to the ER again so I went to Student Health, called on my way and got an appt on an emergency basis, again.  

The nurse practicioner I saw today is sending my urine sample to get some lab work done.  Apparently the ER didn't really do that.  They noted that there was alot of white blood cells in my urine on Sunday, and the nurse today said she saw lots of bacteria in my urine today.  But then she said b/c my sample wasn't great today (I gave all I had, but it was only about half a cup of dark orange-brown stuff) if the lab thinks too much surface bacteria got in, they'll throw it out.  I'm now on Cipro and I'm going to have to see her again on Friday morning, and if things get worse, before Friday.  I hate this.  I hate going to the hospital/clinic...I hate seeing doctors, unless it's my OR or OD b/c I'm so used to them and their offices that it's not stressful at all.

In happier news:

I'm learning to use my front teeth...the upper ones don't work very well.

I'm scared I'm going to knock over my teeth when I brush...

My essix retainers (yes, I have both upper and lower) are squishy...and I'm supposed to wear them 24-7 for 3 months, then every night for the next 6 months or so...then every other night for the rest of my life.  And, I can't even drink warm water w/ them on b/c they'll melt, or anything other than cool water b/c it'll stain.  I'm not allowed to brush it.  So, I did what someone else said they were doing and bought some effervescent denture soak...but the water turns blue and I'm scared of having blue-tinted retainers.  :)  I think I talk funny w/ it on, but my friends say only some words are lispy.

AND, my grandmother moved to the States again!!!  We saw each other for the first time in like 6 yrs...it was sad having to say good bye again.  Her hand shakes now b/c she's had two brain surgeries in the past 10 yrs to drain abscess in her skull...then to replace the piping.  She also shrunk a little more.  

Here's my fav. grandmother and me, I tower over her and I'm only 5'2"...she's so funny; she said I grew taller since the last time I saw her...I told her how short and small I am compared to the rest of the world and she said it's been a source of pain all her life to be so short.  She understands me. :)